As parents, you want to give your children the best gift possible. In many ways, the healthiest thing you can give your children is the example of a strong marriage. How you and your partner communicate, problem-solve, and handle your parental responsibilities are important to your children’s growth. Your healthy marriage can affect nearly every aspect of their lives as adults.
A strong marriage benefits your children’s lives in many ways. Many children who are in a married-parent household are less likely to become addicted to drugs or alcohol. They are more likely to stay in school and will have a great idea of what it takes to make a marriage work.
Your example shapes how they think, how they treat people, and what future goals their set for themselves. For this reason, it is important to be aware of how you are presenting yourself and the way you treat your partner in front of your little ones. Here are seven ways a strong marriage benefits your children.
A Strong Marriage
The Healthiest thing you can give your Kids
1. Teaches Children to Work as a Team
Embracing marriage as a team will set a great example for your children in the future. Do not be in a position where your child knows that if one parent says no to something, the other will say yes. Instead, be united and show your children you work as a team by consulting one another before making decisions.
Working as a team also shows your children what they should expect from any future romantic partner. It tells them that whether they are making a positive family decision or they are in an argument, mates should always work with each other, not against each other.
2. Emotionally and Behaviorally Balanced
Research shows that children whose parents are divorced are more likely to experience emotional and behavioral issues in the future. Children who are in unhappy households where parents argue regularly are more likely to have developmental problems.
Research shows that being exposed to such an environment can cause poor behavior in children, such as avoidance, sulking, and withdrawing emotionally when faced with a problem. Those who grow up in hostile environments are also more likely to suffer from anxiety, stress, and anger issues.
3. It Teaches Affection
Let’s be honest, not many children want to see their parents engaging in PDA. However, experts say that you shouldn’t be shy about holding hands or sharing a smooch in front of your little ones. It is important for children to see public displays of loving affection from their parents. Non-sexual shows of affection by parents help children recognize what healthy love looks like and stresses the importance of romance in relationships. This also teaches children how to behave emotionally and physically with their romantic parents in the future.
4.Creates a Communicative Atmosphere
“Monkey see, monkey do,” is a silly phrase people used to use to describe how children imitate what they see their parents doing. This can be beneficial or detrimental to your child’s behavior, depending on how you and your spouse treat one another when you are in front of your children. For example, a child who views parents acting aggressive or physically with one another may display abusive qualities toward their future romantic partner. Opposite of this, children who see their parents consulting one another and communicating lovingly and respectfully sets an excellent example of what makes a marriage healthy.
Opposite of this, children who grow up in loving households with a strong marriage are emotionally balanced, confident, and secure in their parents love for them.
5.Teaches Children Responsibility
A strong marriage benefits your children by teaching them to share responsibilities. When both you and your spouse work, your children will see that you both help pay bills, buy groceries, and contributes financially to the family. Another way you can teach your children responsibility is by sharing in the household duties.
You and your partner can both take on tasks that contribute to the tidiness of the house, such as vacuuming, dusting, or doing dishes. This shows your children that whether it’s a large responsibility such as caring for household finances or a smaller task like keeping the home clean, both mates help one another by taking on some of the responsibility.
6.The Importance of a Close Marriage Bond
How you behave in your marriage is indicative of what your children will expect from their future romantic partners. When you have a regular date night with your partner, you teach your children the importance of staying close in a marriage.
When your children know that you have a regular date night that you stick to each week it shows them that you spend time together, not because you’re married and you’re “supposed” to, but because it is fun. This teaches them that married partners are more than just romantic interests for one another. They are best friends who enjoy one another’s company both for serious matters and for fun.
7.Encourages Problem-Solving Skills
A strong marriage teaches your children how to problem-solve, not to argue. When you and your mate have great communication skills you know how to speak to solve, not speak to win a disagreement or hurt the other’s feelings. This will give your child a healthy view of communicating even when they are stressed out or frustrated.
Set the best example you can in this regard by never shouting at your spouse in front of your child, by taking a respectful tone even during a disagreement, and by being level-headed and fair when making household decisions.
No couple is perfect. Are you always going to be able to show your children the very best that marriage has to offer? Maybe not. But always remember that the example of a balanced marriage is one of the most important gifts you can ever give your children. Work as a team in your marriage and showing regular affection will help your children feel safe and sets a standard that will encourage them to pursue healthy romantic relationships in the future.
Sylvia Smith is a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples. She has helped countless individuals and organizations around the world, offering effective and efficient solutions for healthy and successful relationships. Her mission is to provide inspiration, support and empowerment to everyone on their journey to a great marriage. She is a featured writer for Marriage.com, a reliable resource to support healthy happy marriages.